The Security of Christian Love

I have been asked how my marriage has changed since Ed and I became Christians years ago. There is no comparison! Before that time, of course, we were both self-centered. We did not have the kind of sex relationship spoken of in this book because we just did not care that much about pleasing each other, and we were quite ignorant of the meaning of sex in God’s Word. We got along well together but we did not share our innermost feelings with each other.

Now that we are Christians, I know that the love Ed has for me is the same kind of love that Christ has for me. I am safe and secure in that love. I know that I can always talk to my husband, and that I can trust his wisdom as the spiritual leader of our family. As we have become so used to pouring our hearts out together in prayer, we now are free to communicate about anything to each other. We are not afraid to expose ourselves and our faults, because we know that we accept each other, just as we are, with all our frailties and faults and good points. How wonderful it is to know that I am not loved based on my performance: No matter how poorly I perform, I am still going to be loved. And that has to make me perform better.
Is it a perfect relationship? Of course not! I still have attitudes rise up within me that are not right. Then I have to back up and start again, turning it over to the Lord, knowing that I don’t have to act this way as a Christian. I don’t have to let my old nature be in control and I need not choose to be childish and peeved about some insignificant thing that my ego felt as a slight. Actually, when I stop and consider a moment, I know that my husband was busy or occupied and that he did not mean whatever was said or done. As a Christian woman, I am free to be obedient to God and pleasing to my husband. I do not have to behave in any other way.
I would like to think that the husbands are reading this chapter, and that they will begin to show their wives how much they love them and appreciate them—not just in the bedroom, but at any time, with hugs and pats and kind, complimentary words. Many a man does not realize that the wife he has is a reflection of his own behavior toward her.

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