Spectatoring” during Lovemaking
“Spectatoring” is a therapist’s term for apprehensively observing one’s own behavior during lovemaking because one is so anxious about performing well sexually.
This can be remedied as an understanding partner helps the person turn his or her attention to sensual feelings and the pleasure of nondemand physical caressing.
Because intimacy is a mutual experience of sharing, it is difficult to enter into the enjoyment of it when you are self-preoccupied. Switching your attention to pleasuring your partner and enjoying the way your partner pleasures you will build intimacy and do away with anxious self-consciousness.
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To Ed Wheat Sr. and Gladys Gibson Wheat, whose commitment, devotion, warmth, generosity, and integrity stood for fifty years as a beautiful picture of genuine agape love.