Premenstrual Syndrome Considerations for Men
PMS is not easily predictable, and symptoms are rarely the same each month. But it does arrive about the same time each month, which allows men the opportunity to prepare for some shifts in emotions and moods. It is especially important not to tease or be condescending in any way. Many men make the mistake of blaming any of their wife’s mood changes solely on PMS. They make remarks such as, “Isn’t it that time of the month?” Derogatory remarks will not reduce the emotional tension. In fact they will more than likely make more unpleasant the already difficult period.
What will help is general kindness and a special sensitivity. Favorable remarks about your wife’s appearance and increased physical touching in a nonsexual way will also be most pleasing. Help your mate reduce stressful situations and help with domestic duties. Criticism is certainly out of order and may be viewed as an all-out attack. Recognize that your wife’s insecurity may be at a high level and affirm your love and commitment whenever it is appropriate to do so. Try to make your mate as comfortable emotionally and physically as is within your power.
PMS doesn’t give a wife the right to be mean. She is responsible for her behavior and attitudes. But extra kindness and consideration will most likely help take the edge off her emotions, and this approach is the right and responsible thing to do. Listen closely to the things she says and try to help accommodate those special needs, which may vary or change from month to month. Remember you are building your relationship for a lifetime, so invest wisely with kind acts, wisdom, and patience.
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