Phase III: Orgasm
The term orgasm comes from the Greek word orge meaning excitement. In the woman, it has been described as a momentary feeling of suspension, followed by a sensation of warmth starting in the perineal area and pervading the entire body. Rhythmic contractions of the lower third of the vagina follow. There may be from three to ten contractions over the period of a few seconds. She can increase the intensity of the physical sensations by voluntarily strengthening her P.C. muscle contractions and adding her own pelvic movements to her husband’s, as she lets herself go in seeking release. As her physical movements, her response to her partner’s stimulation, and her own mental concentration blend into a total reaching for satisfaction, she comes to climax—often an emotional mountain-peak experience, when the rest of the world recedes and seems to stand still—a high point of feeling, best described as ecstasy.
Sometimes a woman does not know if she has experienced an orgasm. If you feel your vagina contracting involuntarily, if you feel excited at first, and later feel calm and physically satisfied, you can take this as evidence that you have had an orgasm, even though perhaps a weak one.
The man’s orgasm consists of involuntary muscle tension and contractions, with sensation centered specifically in the penis, prostate, and seminal vesicles. His orgasm is complete when he has expelled the semen.
Husband, there are five things you can do that will increase the physical intensity and pleasure of your orgasm:
1. Wait at least twenty-four hours after previous orgasm to allow the body to store a larger volume of seminal fluid.
2. Lengthen the foreplay and excitement period so that the penis can remain erect about twenty minutes.
3. Increase your imagination factor by seeing and feeling your wife’s ecstatic response to your knowledgeable and skillful physical stimulation, which brings her to the point of maximum physical pleasure.
4. Voluntarily contract your anal sphincter muscles during your orgasm.
5. Increase the force of thrusting while your orgasm is in progress.
During these few seconds of intense sensation known as orgasm, both husband and wife experience various muscular responses, even facial grimaces. As they both move in rhythm, they usually grasp one another tightly. Men and women are sometimes unaware of their extreme muscular exertions during orgasm, but it is not uncommon the next day to notice muscular aches, particularly in the back and thighs.
As soon as the husband finishes ejaculation, he should begin manual stimulation of his wife’s clitoris, so that she can have repeated orgasms. This is the way the woman is designed! She should not have to ask for this, as the whole sex relationship is a pattern of pleasing each other. This means it is not desirable to change pace by having to ask for something for one’s self. It should be the natural desire of the husband to provide every pleasure he knows of, and the wife may be intensely pleased by this continuing stimulation.
While arriving at orgasm at the same time may be a goal for lovers, it is not nearly as important as aiming at mutual enjoyment. Some begin to experience simultaneous orgasms as they come to understand each other more intimately. What does matter is that both partners be fully satisfied in each sexual encounter.
Time is all important. Take time to thoroughly arouse each other physically. Take time to ensure the wife’s orgasm and the husband’s controlled, full response. Finally, after intercourse, take time to express your love and appreciation for each other.
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To Ed Wheat Sr. and Gladys Gibson Wheat, whose commitment, devotion, warmth, generosity, and integrity stood for fifty years as a beautiful picture of genuine agape love.