Phase II.
The objective of this phase: For the husband to learn to recognize the physical sensation that comes just before ejaculation, so that he is able to communicate to his wife the best time to apply the squeeze.
During this session it is vitally important that the husband concentrate completely on his own sensations. He is to block out all other thoughts, so that he will become keenly aware of the feeling that comes just prior to ejaculation. It may help if he closes his eyes. As soon as the husband feels he is nearing the point of ejaculation, he is to indicate this to his wife by some predetermined word or signal. She is then to quickly use the squeeze technique. This phase should be repeated during the daily practice sessions, until the husband can consistently recognize the sensation that occurs just before ejaculation (see figure).
1. The wife is to sit with her back against the headboard of the bed, with her legs spread comfortably apart.
2. The husband is to lie on his back, with his head toward the foot of the bed.
3. The husband positions his pelvis between his wife’s legs, with his genitals close to hers. With knees bent, his feet are to be placed outside her thighs (near her buttocks).
4. The wife now lovingly and gently caresses the man’s genitals, paying special attention to the underside of the shaft or the head of the penis, or wherever her husband directs, to encourage him to attain an erection.
5. As soon as the husband achieves full erection, the wife will begin the squeeze technique. She places her thumb on the underside of the penis, about one-half inch below the slit opening just where the shaft ends and the head begins. She then places the first two fingers of that hand on the opposite side of the penis, with one finger above the ridge and one finger below the ridge that distinguishes the head from the shaft.
6. She then squeezes her thumb and two fingers together with very hard pressure for about four seconds.
7. She then quickly releases the pressure.
8. After fifteen to thirty seconds, she manipulates him to full erection again and repeats the squeeze. The husband should inform his wife by word or subtle signals when he feels she needs to repeat the squeeze to delay his orgasm.
9. Repeat this procedure every four to five minutes for the entire twenty-minute session.
10. The husband may prefer to have a lubricant applied to his penis to more closely simulate the sensations felt during sexual intercourse.
11. Do not have intercourse or insert the penis into the vagina.
12. At the end of the session, stimulation should be continued to ejaculation.
13. It will be desirable for the husband to use manual stimulation of the wife’s clitoris to bring her to orgasm after each practice session.
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To Ed Wheat Sr. and Gladys Gibson Wheat, whose commitment, devotion, warmth, generosity, and integrity stood for fifty years as a beautiful picture of genuine agape love.